A lot of people do New Year's Resolutions, and maybe you're one of them.
I set them too, and I'll have a blog about those later, but goals for me are hard. They set up parameters that determine if you pass or fail. You either complete them or you crash and burn in week two.
In fact, research is showing that by January 12th 80% of us will have already given up on what we set out to do.
That being said, I decided to add something new to the mix this year. I've spoken with several people, and seen several articles about choosing a word for 2019.
The word can be anything. Any word that you feel encapsulates what your goals would have been, or will be if you set them.
For example, a lot of people start the year with a resolution to go to the gym more. So they set goals like, get to the gym x amount of times a week, don't eat fast food, drink plenty of water, etc.
And those goals are great, there's nothing wrong with having a specific task in mind, but there is something I see wrong right off the bat.
All of those goals are pass fail, you either get to the gym or you don't. You either eat fast food or you don't. You either drink the right amount of water or you don't.
Where is there any room for grace????
Instead of setting yourself up for a test, set yourself up for some grace.
If your the person, like me, who had a long list of resolutions that seem daunting and overwhelming, take the pressure off yourself and just pick a theme. Say something like...
"In 2019 I want to be healthy."
"In 2019 I want to be strong."
Maybe you aren't trying to hit the gym, other things work too like...
"I want to be disciplined."
"I want to be focused."
Healthy, strong, happy, disciplined, focused, organized, kind, meek, creative, successful, all of these words set your tone for 2019, and give you space to do what you need to do to maintain that theme.
There's no check boxes, or to do's just an idea of a person you want to become and it's up to you how you chose to pursue it.
I think one of the most exciting things is reflecting on you think you can meet these ideas. Maybe instead of losing 10lbs you find a great group of friends at the gym, that's still healthy.
Or instead of meeting five new people every month, you find joy in spending time with yourself. That's still happy.
Really what we need is less "I have too's" and a lot more grace.
For me, 2019 is all about growth. Growing in my faith, my love for my hubby, my blog, a business and a career.
But ask me in December what God does with my word, and I'm sure it will be better than what I had planned.
What's your word for 2019?
To express, explain, and exclaim the lessons life continually throws at me, and my take on how to deal.